Let’s talk about being a stepmom.

Before anything else, I loved this life — this calling — and I’ve done everything in my power to be what those kids need and deserve when their mom can’t, or simply won’t. Over time, they’ve come to depend on me in certain ways, because deep down they know I’ll always show up. I’ll always be there — especially when disappointment leaves them hurting.

From the very beginning, I told my husband, “I’ll never try to replace her.” But I also made it clear — I won’t stand by and let these kids go without the love, care, or stability they deserve. That’s not fair to them.

The truth is, I’ve never wanted anything more than to be a mother. I’ve spent most of my adult life hoping, praying, and trying — but pregnancy just never happened for me. Not even once. I even had weight loss surgery and lost almost 200 pounds, believing maybe that would be my breakthrough. But it wasn’t.

By the time I met my husband in 2023, I had finally made peace with the idea that being a mom just might not be part of my story — at least, not in the way I imagined. Then I met him… and his three kids. And I realized maybe God’s plan for me looked different — that maybe this was how He was making me a mama. Because let’s be real — moms come in all forms these days.

We didn’t even plan to get married as soon as we did, but those kids practically begged us to. I think they saw something in us — a healthy, loving relationship that felt safe and steady. They’d seen enough chaos and fighting to know that love isn’t supposed to hurt. With us, they finally got to see what love can really look like.

And then, much to our total surprise… at age 40, God wasn’t done writing my story. 💕

In 74 days, I’m due to have our baby. Yes — after all these years — I’m 7 months pregnant 🤰🏻 

Part of me still worries about how this new season will change our family dynamic, but my heart melts seeing how excited the kids are. The girls have been begging me to have a baby, and now it’s actually happening. 💙🩷

They’ll always be how I became a mama first — the reason I learned what love beyond myself looks like. 🥰

“He has made everything beautiful in its time.”

— Ecclesiastes 3:11 🌸

Sometimes, God’s timing looks nothing like ours… but His plan is always perfect.

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